This happens in almost every home.

You ask your child to do something…

and it feels like they completely ignore you.

“Put your shoes on.”
“Come to the table.”
“Turn off your iPad.”

You ask again.

And again.

Before long you’re repeating yourself louder and louder, wondering why they’re not listening.

Most of the time children aren’t ignoring you on purpose.

They’re simply absorbed in whatever they’re doing.

In this short video, Sensei Dee from SOLO Kids Academy explains a simple approach that helps children listen more effectively.

When children are playing, watching something, or concentrating on an activity, their brain becomes completely focused on it.

So when instructions are called from across the room, they often don’t properly register.

In martial arts classes we see this regularly with children.

And there’s a simple approach that works much better.

Instead of repeating instructions from across the room, try this:

Walk over to your child.

Gently touch their shoulder.

Say their name.

Then give the instruction once.

That small moment of connection helps their brain switch attention so they actually hear what you’re saying.

Children respond far better when they feel calm and connected.

In martial arts training we use the same idea to help children focus, listen and stay engaged during class.

It’s a small change, but it can make a big difference at home.

Parenting isn’t about getting everything perfect.

Sometimes it’s just about finding small approaches that make everyday moments easier.

Each week I share simple insights that help children build confidence, focus and resilience.

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Sensei Darren